This is one of the most important things for a couple to uphold when they get married. For those married or dating, it is essential to create special occasions where you and your partner can spend quality time together. Falling into the same robotic routines can create distance and boredom within marriages. Through dating, couples are able to create intentional occassions to connect, feel special and experience love.
“Dates got you to a place where you wanted to marry each other. If you want to stay married, then keep dating your spouse.” -Andy Traub
- Acknowledge the good often.
Gratitude fuels a marriage. Acknowledging your spouse in their efforts to keep the house clean, changing the oil, or working overtime will do wonders for your marriage. Unfortunately, it is so easy to comment on the negative things that we sometimes forget to acknowledge the positive things. This leaves for bitter partner. However, when couples acknowledge the good, they are saying, “I see you. I appreciate you. Thank you.”
“We value virtue but do not discuss it. The honest bookkeeper, the faithful wife, the earnest scholar get little of our attention compared to the embezzler, the tramp, the cheat.”― John Steinbeck
- Protect your marriage.
Creating boundaries early in a marriage will assist in mitigating future arguments. Couples need to discuss with each other what is and/or is not appropriate within the walls of their unique marriage. How do you feel about friends of the opposite sex? Is it okay to discuss your problems with your in-laws? How do you feel about technology in the bedroom? These conversations help couples create the boundaries they need in order to protect their marriage before major problems arise.
“I’ve known plenty of couples who choose to ignore budding problems or dissatisfactions because it’s easier in the moment. But too much of that for long enough, and you all of a sudden have a huge problem on your hands, or a midlife crisis, or a broken marriage.”― Fawn Weaver
- No secrets.
Communicating the truth can be extremely painful. But what hurts even more is not communicating at all. Transparency will keep you and your spouse close. When couples start keeping little secrets early on in their relationship, things can easily spiral out of control. Before you know it, the little things pile up into big things. While being open, couples can find ways to support each other in their struggles and adjust accordingly when someone needs help getting back on track.
“The man who can keep a secret may be wise, but he is not half as wise as the man with no secrets to keep.” –E.W. Howe
- Choose your spouse first.
Whether it be work, friends, extended family, or hobbies, at one time or another, at least one of these things has gotten the best of our energy. When this happens, our spouse is expected to deal with what is left over of us after every ounce of energy has been spent. Now, imagine what would happen if this became a routine…the effects would be damaging. Couples in strong marriages set their priorities and make daily efforts to demonstrate love and care toward their spouse.
“The secret of your future is hidden in your daily routine.” –Mike Murdock
You can also view 10 Ways to Improve Your Relationship Today for more tips!