This piece of work was a little different than our usual blogs. This time, YOU have spoken! Several people responded to the inquiry, “What is the best piece of marriage advice you have ever received?” The responses were heartwarming, humorous, honest and endearing! I want to thank each person and couple who shared their own personal experiences and their best tips to create a happy and healthy relationship. With that, please enjoy this beautiful list of timeless advice.
Top 50- Best Marriage Advice!
- Make time for each other and make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. –Mint L.
- Don’t let the sun go down on your anger. –Lynn B.
- Just do the dishes. –Donald M.
- Plan getaway weekends, at least 1-2x per year – Madeleine P.
- Do the small silly things that your partner liked before you were married. –Gene C.
- Be gentle and thoughtful. You have no idea how long something you say can stay in someone’s mind. –Elyse M.
- Set aside time for the two of you at least once a week. Even if it’s just sipping tea and chatting. Just have a conversation with each other with undivided attention! –Preseda S.
- Take moments, even multiple times a day to get on the same page- share short term and long term goals, thoughts, feelings, anxieties, etc. – Kaeleen K.
- Treat each other like you are still trying to win each other. – Valentina R.
- Never stop dating your spouse! – Emily L.
- Give 80 expect 20. – Ray B.
- Don’t put your marriage on hold when raising your kids. –Mint L.
- Go to church together. – Marty C.
- Have respect, friendship, laughter, honesty and be yourself. –Marianna D.
- You can be right or you can be connected. – Jasmine C.
- Choose each other every day. And if you’re disagreeing or in an argument at the end at least tell each other that you love each other or at least choose each other. –Melissa S.
- Happy wife happy life. – Jeff M.
- Equality in a marriage is not fixed; it is negotiated. -Hank S.
- Have ownership for oneself and have compassionate understanding of the other. – Rick J.
- Assume grace. -Talia
- Forget About Me. I Love You. (Family) -Tom H.
- Develop a code word to help you to stop and talk when you are agitated. A code word can clear up any issues before it becomes a fight. -Kaeleen K.
- Reserve 10% of giving energy and effort for yourself. Respect that 10% for your spouse to have as well. – Irene H.
- Make up before going to asleep. -Bahar J.
- If you see something that needs to be done, do it. –Claire J.
- One of the best thing you can do for your marriage is just listen. You don’t have to agree or like it, but by listening to your partner you are showing respect. –Kanesha K.
- Have patience, get comfortable compromising and love with humility. – Gaston D.
- Always be kind to each other! –Mani B.
- Don’t try to change the other. –Marianna D.
- You don’t want to be to codependent or too independent but a good balance of interdependent. -John C.
- When you disagree consider the other person’s perspective as if they are 100% right. We may not agree, but it budges us out of our own mindset towards compromise and it softens the heart quite a bit too. Then we’re more open to finding common ground. -Diane B.
- Remove breaking up as an option – it stunts problem-solving in a relationship. -Robert N.
- Never lie. –Pat H.
- Develop a plan on 3 outlets you can utilize when problems arise in your marriage. It could be confiding in a trusted couple, speaking with a pastor, an agreement to go to counseling etc. Just agree on 3 things and when the time arises in moments of pain, you both know what to do. –Emily D.
- Open communication is key in ANY relationship. – Jessica S.
- Just as with parenting there is no perfect marriage. Once a couple can let go of expectations, give in to the experience and be in it wholeheartedly, there is a sense of freedom. -Heather N.
- Learn to truly appreciate all the things your partner does – the big and little. –Teresa S.
- Remind yourself often how lucky you are, basically the count your blessings rule. –Gene C.
- They can’t read your mind! If you need/want/expect anything, talk about it. You have no right to get mad or frustrated for expecting your spouse to automatically know anything. -Claire J.
- Never assume that your marriage is so good they you’d never get a divorce. As soon as you do, you no longer watch for things that could break your marriage down. –April T.
- Marriage is a commitment you make again and again, every, single, day. -Edie L.
- Never speak badly about your spouse to others. -Mani B.
- Be your spouses biggest fan. -Emily D.
- Imagine your relationship like a joint checking account. Being nice to each other is considered a deposit in your account. Bad words, bad actions, fights etc are considered withdrawals. When the account goes in the red then the relationship is in likely to end. The trick is keeping the account in the black. – Bryan A.
- Always kiss goodbye. –Charly C.
- Make time for your sexual relationship even when you are tired. –Anne S.
- Never ever ever hold a grudge. -Gene C
- Live within your means. Even more practical: live on one salary. It sounds hard, and it can be- especially in a world that says possessions equal happiness. But it set couples up for great things by being able to save for travel, continue their education, stay home to raise children and so on. –Caitlin E.
- Forgive easily! -Sara N.
- And finally…marriage is 50/50 with lots of love and consideration. It worked 60 years for me. -Bill M.
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